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2 Minute Tip #9 ~ Clearing Out Negative Emotions

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Wouldn’t be great if we could deal with our negative emotions once and for all? If we could clear them out, and they would stay gone?

Welcome to Mindfully Organized 2-Minute Tips. I’m Rose Hawley-Perry, the De-Clutter Your Mind So Your Soul can Shine Coach and I’m here today to talk about dealing with negative emotions.

Getting rid of negative emotions is kinda like cleaning your house. You sweep everything away.  You dust and then a week of living later and it’s dirty again. It’s an ongoing process of dealing with what comes up in life… and sweeping it away,  making room for the openness that you crave.

A lot of entrepreneurs have this trouble with negative voices,  and they get stuck. The ones that succeed are the ones that clean out. They fill their lives with positive information. They listen to podcasts. They meditate. They journal. Many, many people go through life on autopilot, not even knowing that these untruths, these negative old stories are coming up. You are one step ahead by just realizing that they’re there…and you need to give yourself credit for that.2 Minute Tip #9 ~ Clearing Negative

Now, think about what’s going on. And think about how to break out of that pattern.  Then, the next time those same negative thoughts come up, you will know how better to deal with that same thought. You might focus through the fear which is the subject of another upcoming Mindfully Organized 2-Minute Tip.  You might meditate. You might journal. You might try all of them and figure out which one works for you.

Armed with the knowledge of this time of what worked for you, The more prepared the next time some negative thoughts come up and start blocking you in getting you stuck from working in your business. I hope today’s two minutes tip helps a little bit.

Please email me if you have any questions at rose@mindfullyorganized.com. If you like this video or know someone that might need it please share it.

What do you do to clear the negative emotions that are holding you back?  Leave a comment below and keep the conversation going. 🙂

2 Minute Tip #8 ~ Getting Sh*t Done

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Alrighty, You have great ideas, you even followed my advice and got everything out of your head and on to paper, you set your  priority tasks….and you still aren’t getting shit done.

Welcome to Mindfully Organized 2 Minute tips I am Rose Hawley-Perry, The Declutter Your Mind So Your Soul Can Shine and in today’s episode we are going to talk about focus time.

We have so, so many things to detract us in today’s world. Do you get fb notification on your phone, your computer, your tablet? Does your email ping you? Do you have Skype, Google chat and Facebook chat all up all day long?

It has been proven that none of us multitask; some of us are better at switching between tasks, but for all of us it does take time and brain power to switch.

I have two suggestions for getting the important items off your to-do list.

  • The first involves making an appointment with yourself. As an entrepreneur my schedule is very flexible, sometimes too flexible. At times I find myself putting off what I really need to do for appointments with other people. So now I make “appointments” with myself for work time. IF I have to move them I do, but I know about how much focus time I want to have in the week and I make sure I have that much time.
  • Second, during focus time shut the notifications off. Turn your phone on silent, Shut down email, Facebook and Google chat, and Skype. Now, you can write something, or plan something, or learn something. Make sure you set a goal for this focus time. Write one blog post. Go through one module. Research X. At first the silence is going to feel weird. You might want to turn on music, but make sure  it is your music from your ipod or cd so you aren’t hearing news and commercials and such. And then sit with the time. You are going to want to distract yourself but keep bringing yourself back to the task at hand. These 2 minute tips are all written in focus time.

Let me know what you think, leave a comment below!  How do you get shit done?  Have you tried focus time?

2 Minute Tips #7 ~ Mentors

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We are often told the key to success is hard work AND  having the right mentor.  But, finding a mentor is a topic that is hardly ever discussed.  This week’s tip will give you some different tips to help you get clear about what you want in  a mentor/mentee relationship.

A mentor is different from a coach, a consultant, an adviser.  It is a more personal relationship.  One in which, someone who is where you want to be some day, a few steps ahead of you or lots of step ahead of you, takes their time and energy to help you along.  To listen, to advise, to introduce you to the right people on occasion.

This relationship is “not a for hire” relationship.  It is a relationship that develops over time.  What do you get out of it?  Someone that has been there and done that.  A sounding board for the your whole person. What do they get out of it?  The joy of helping someone grow. The pleasure of knowing that they are contributing to the future of their field.

Because this is more like a friendship than a business colleague,

you certainly don’t want to just go around asking people to mentor you that you just met. That would be like asking someone to be your best friend the first day you meet them!

Don’t know where to start?  The best thing to do is to hire the right coach to help you with whatever you are stuck on right now and keep reaching out to the awesome people in your industry using the tips in today’s video!

Have you ever wondered how to get a mentor?  How successful, important people choose who to pass on their knowledge and skills to?

I have been reading Sheryl Sandbeg’s book, Lean In: Women Work, and The Will to Lead. She has a whole chapter on mentoring.  I have to admit that I never really thought about mentoring the way that she describes it.  I never really thought how that relationship goes together.  As an entrepreneur we are often told you need to find a mentor.  But how do you do that?  I have some tips for you.

First things first, don’t ask someone directly to be your mentor.  Mentors choose you.  This would be like asking someone to be your best friend the first day that you meet them.

  • Come with well prepared questions.  DON’T ask them anything you can find out doing a google search.  Do your research, find out what is already out there. Then ask them detailed questions about what you found.
  • Send them things you think they might be interested in.  This people are really busy and they don’t always have time to keep up with the industry news. So send them an interesting article or ask them how they feel about something that came out in the news.
  • Be prepared to get feedback.  If you are defensive about something that they have to tell you, they have no reason to give you feedback after that.  Even if you disagree, say thank you, you have given me something to think about.

You probably want to connect with several people in this way at the same time. You don’t know who you are going to develop a relationship with but I can almost guarantee you that it won’t be with everyone that you reach out to.

Tell me what you think!  Leave a comment below and keep the conversation going.

2 Minute Tip #6 ~ Rant…Get the Help You NEED!

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Are you trying to get everything done all by yourself?  Do you feel overwhelmed with the amount of information to process, tasks to complete, decisions to be made?

Welcome to Mindfully Organized 2 Minute Tips I am Rose Hawley-Perry, The De-clutter Your Mind So Your Soul Can Shine Coach and in today’s episode I am going to rant for a little bit.

I don’t know exactly why, but many, many women entrepreneurs including myself prior to this want to figure it all  for our ourselves.  Spending money on getting help with something “I can figure out myself”, getting help with the small routine tasks, asking someone who is succeeding at doing what you want to do for specific advice.  All these things seem ridiculous and a waste of time and money and energy.

But let me tell you, I realized that I was flat out wrong.  When I looked back into my 15 year career in the business world, I did not move from Program Assistant to Director of Operations all by myself.  Admittedly, I did a lot of research on my own, I figured out the right people to ask and the right questions to ask those people. But I always said, oh, I don’t know much I just know that right people to ask.  But moving into the entrepreneurial life I lost that knowledge, it felt like a failure to ask, or a imposition on the other person or ….I know you get it.

The truth of the matter is that we all can use help.  There is NO successful person that has done it alone.

I am an absolutely wonderful coach when it comes to decluttering, mind, body, space.  I can help you let go of the stuff that is weighing you down.  But why should I spend all my time trying to figure out the business side of getting my message out there to you.  It is like trying to reinvent the wheel and we all know how silly that is.

So what do you do?  Ask for help, if you are struggling with housework ask a friend to come over.  If you are struggling in business, hire a business coach.  If you need some free time see if someone can come babysit your kids for the evening. If you want to declutter your mind so your soul can shine hire me. 

The other piece of this puzzle for business is mentors and I will discuss that in next week’s tip.

I know this is hard, especially at first!  But the very best thing I ever did for Mindfully Organized is hire my business coach!  She is a blessing for me, my business and my relationship.  You do not have to do this alone.

What do you think?  Leave a comment below and keep the conversation going!

2 Minute Tips ~ #5 Dealing with Difficult People

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Have you ever said something that you really, really regret?

Welcome to Mindfully Organized 2 Minute tips I am Rose Hawley-Perry, The Declutter Your Mind So Your Soul Can Shine Coach and in today’s episode I am going give you a few pointers on making more conscious choices in our responses to others.

Before all else you must take responsibility for your own actions.  Unless someone has physically made you do something, they don’t actually make you do anything.  The part that is theirs is their behavior.  That gets processed by your brain, filtered through your stories, your experience, your expectations and then turns it into YOUR reaction.

Have you ever had a person in your life that other friends got along with just fine, but they just pushed all the wrong buttons for you?  That is because their behavior gets filtered through your brain.

So, how do you start becoming more conscious and less reactive? Anywhere you can.  It takes practice and it seems like a lot of work.  But in reality, it is less work, because you get to decide when you want to do something.  You get to decide when to ignore something.  You and only you get to decide how you are going to spend your energy. I am not saying that getting angry or having a good cry isn’t the right reaction.  I am just saying you get to decide.

Most important, give yourself time to think before you speak. Do NOT respond too quickly.  We are taught that we need to answer quickly and decisively and that is false.  Take a breath.  If the situation allows step away, if it doesn’t say, Let me think about this for a minute.

Then decide what the most important outcome is for you in the situation.  If you are talking to a co-worker and they insulted you, but you need them to get something done yesterday, following up on the insulting part of the conversation right this minute may not be the best response.

What do you think? I love to hear your opinions so let a comment below and let’s talk. 🙂

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