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Stepping into Laughter

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Have you ever been called to do something totally outside of your “normal”, and then LISTENED?

I did and am I AM PROUD to say that I am one of the artists in The Divine Love Oracle Deck!!!!Halloween-Spread (2)

I loved, loved art in college, always was taking something usually some kind of printmaking…yet I can’t remember doing any art since.

Then 4 or 5 weeks ago I saw a post about a crowd sourced and crowd funded oracle deck and without thinking I wrote something like. “This sounds like fun, let me know if you have any spots left.” Now, I have just started to use oracle decks, I find them a great tool for tapping into your own intuition, but I have never contemplated being involved with making a deck or talking about oracle. Logically I am a baby at the use of this tool but I didn’t worry because it seemed like the deck was already pretty complete.

Much to my surprize Amethyst Mahoney responded right away that a couple of cards were still open including “Laughter” and then I knew this was divine timing. If you have meet me in person or watched any of my videos you know I am a person who laughs and cries easily and frequently.

In middle school I was afraid of creating laughter. I really didn’t know anymore that people could be laughing with you. I always felt like they were laughing at me. I grew smaller and smaller. Then a met a lovely lady in my youth group, Reese.  Reese accepted me for who I was: a serious, silly, earnest person who always wanted to be helping and doing. Life was fun again. And we laughed long and hard at times. We worked long and hard at times. Often we laughed while we were working.  Life still wasn’t easy but it was easier. 

Now, I believe that the universe has a sense of humor you can see if you are willing to look. I believe laughing at the absurd is so much better than crying or raging. There is nothing more refreshing than a full body laugh surrounded by friends. I believe remembering to stop working and see the brighter side of life can make you more efficient and effective. In all laugher is a large part of my life now. I even love to make my lead laugh while social dancing west coast swing.

Laughter was the perfect subject for me. And then the fear came….

The fear slowed me down. I procrastinated. I didn’t learn the software. I didn’t have anything except a design in my mind. I knew what I wanted the card to look like but had not done anything to make it a reality.

I thought I had more time but then I realized the card was late. I had to do my card in one night. My husband opened Photoshop for me. Learned to use hubby’s tablet. I tried to draw the laughing face I saw in my mind over and over again. I had something I liked…then the computer crashed. I had to start over. My husband wanted to help me so badly. He offered to fix my drawing. But I knew this had to be my art. I got something I liked.  Yay!

Then for the rays. I had to learn to use photoshop. I couldn’t get what was in my head to show up in the design. I had to settle…My perfectionist hates to settle. Then I added the background photo and a different background photo, and another, and another. I didn’t love any of them. I had 3 that were ok. But I had run out of time…

My fear was strong and I wanted to quit. I couldn’t decide which version to send or even if I should send one. But once I make a commitment I really try hard not to back out. I finally told myself “Someone has to have the least creative card. This time it is going to be you.” That’s how I finally talked myself into sending the card into Amethyst. But I still could not decide which one. So I was embarrassed but I left the choice up to her.

She picked the card I was afraid was too boring. It was the one that hubby picked too. A couple of weeks ago watching Amethyst and one of the other artist go through the deck, that artist pointed out my card as one she loved.  And I am laughing as I write this.  We can make things so hard on ourselves. I can be absurd and stubborn but laughter won. It was all worth it!

I am proud to be part of this amazing group of artist bringing you a wonderful tool to tap into your intuition. I would love it if you shared this amazing project or if you are so called purchase a set. I can’t wait to get my Divine Love Oracle Cards!

 

2 Minute Tip #8 ~ Getting Sh*t Done

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Alrighty, You have great ideas, you even followed my advice and got everything out of your head and on to paper, you set your  priority tasks….and you still aren’t getting shit done.

Welcome to Mindfully Organized 2 Minute tips I am Rose Hawley-Perry, The Declutter Your Mind So Your Soul Can Shine and in today’s episode we are going to talk about focus time.

We have so, so many things to detract us in today’s world. Do you get fb notification on your phone, your computer, your tablet? Does your email ping you? Do you have Skype, Google chat and Facebook chat all up all day long?

It has been proven that none of us multitask; some of us are better at switching between tasks, but for all of us it does take time and brain power to switch.

I have two suggestions for getting the important items off your to-do list.

  • The first involves making an appointment with yourself. As an entrepreneur my schedule is very flexible, sometimes too flexible. At times I find myself putting off what I really need to do for appointments with other people. So now I make “appointments” with myself for work time. IF I have to move them I do, but I know about how much focus time I want to have in the week and I make sure I have that much time.
  • Second, during focus time shut the notifications off. Turn your phone on silent, Shut down email, Facebook and Google chat, and Skype. Now, you can write something, or plan something, or learn something. Make sure you set a goal for this focus time. Write one blog post. Go through one module. Research X. At first the silence is going to feel weird. You might want to turn on music, but make sure  it is your music from your ipod or cd so you aren’t hearing news and commercials and such. And then sit with the time. You are going to want to distract yourself but keep bringing yourself back to the task at hand. These 2 minute tips are all written in focus time.

Let me know what you think, leave a comment below!  How do you get shit done?  Have you tried focus time?

2 Minute Tips ~ #5 Dealing with Difficult People

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Have you ever said something that you really, really regret?

Welcome to Mindfully Organized 2 Minute tips I am Rose Hawley-Perry, The Declutter Your Mind So Your Soul Can Shine Coach and in today’s episode I am going give you a few pointers on making more conscious choices in our responses to others.

Before all else you must take responsibility for your own actions.  Unless someone has physically made you do something, they don’t actually make you do anything.  The part that is theirs is their behavior.  That gets processed by your brain, filtered through your stories, your experience, your expectations and then turns it into YOUR reaction.

Have you ever had a person in your life that other friends got along with just fine, but they just pushed all the wrong buttons for you?  That is because their behavior gets filtered through your brain.

So, how do you start becoming more conscious and less reactive? Anywhere you can.  It takes practice and it seems like a lot of work.  But in reality, it is less work, because you get to decide when you want to do something.  You get to decide when to ignore something.  You and only you get to decide how you are going to spend your energy. I am not saying that getting angry or having a good cry isn’t the right reaction.  I am just saying you get to decide.

Most important, give yourself time to think before you speak. Do NOT respond too quickly.  We are taught that we need to answer quickly and decisively and that is false.  Take a breath.  If the situation allows step away, if it doesn’t say, Let me think about this for a minute.

Then decide what the most important outcome is for you in the situation.  If you are talking to a co-worker and they insulted you, but you need them to get something done yesterday, following up on the insulting part of the conversation right this minute may not be the best response.

What do you think? I love to hear your opinions so let a comment below and let’s talk. 🙂

Making Room for What You Want in Life: Letting Go to Grow

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There is a finite amount of time, energy and money in your life. 

There are only 24 hours in each day. The money or credit that you have right now is limited.  The amount of energy that you have to participate in life is limited.

We all have our individual limits of each of these resources. You might have less energy than a friend or you might have more time to use because you don’t need as much sleep as the average. Whatever it might be, YOU have a limit.

Admittedly, there are ways we each trade one resource for another.  You can trade sleep for time but by not sleeping enough you are dipping into your energy resources.  You can trade money for time and energy by paying someone to clean your house, watch your kids, write your book…but in the end there are still only 24 hours in each day and there is no way money can buy you out of those limitations.

Each one of us makes daily decisions regarding how we are going to spend our precious resources.  There are experts who specialize in teaching you to make, save and spend your money the best way possible.  Experts who focus on saving for retirement, experts who focus on living life to the fullest in the moment, and ones who try to teach ways to balance the two goals out.

There are efficiency experts to help you manage your time, to get more done in less time, to manage your to-do list so you have more time with your family and friends, to save time being organized and these are certainly  of importance to me.

However, the thing that is missing in these conversations is ENERGY.  Everything in our lives also takes our energy.  Whether it is walking the dog, taking care of the our homes, planning our retirement, cooking dinner, going to work or writing a blog (like I am doing now); all of these tasks require your energy.

Some tasks, especially ones that you have done often, only take the energy required to do that specific task.  Walking the dog becomes routine once you’ve done it for years. This task only requires the energy to actually perform the action.

This is not true for tasks that are new to us.  Writing this blog is one example.  I need to generate the energy to actually contemplate what I want to say.  I can’t just sit down and write a blog.  I roll each of these ideas around in my mind until my main idea coalesces and rises to the top.

Writing has always been something that I defined as a task I did not excel at. Over the last year, as I work on my coaching business, each time I needed to write something for the first time I had to spend some energy just convincing myself I could write well. I needed to talk my brain out of finding distractions and push forward. Only then was I able to sit down and write.  Writing a blog, for me, takes much more energy than the energy it took to sit down and write this out today.

With that in mind…What do you need to let go of, at least for a little while, to allow yourself the energy to accomplish the goals on your intention or resolution list, making 2014 your best year yet? 

We all manage, every day, to fill up the 24 hours that we are given and we find the energy that goes along with those hours.  If you are going to do something new and different for yourself this year then something else has to be let go of, at least until your mind, body and spirit are trained for the new activity.

Could you stop watching TV or only watch for 2 hours a week?  Could you take the bus into work so that you can read and/or work during your commute?  Could you enlist the people in your home to plan or make more of the meals? Could you stop saying yes to every request for your assistance, instead focusing on yourself in the moment?

What are you going to let go of? 

I am choosing to trade out some of the electronic brain-teaser games that I like to play at night and instead reading one of the many books on my nightstand and in my Kindle that I’ve been wanting to read.

Leave me a comment below and let me know what you think about these ideas. If you like them let me know what you might choose to give up in order to make 2014 your best year yet.

Join us on all kinds of social media as we make 2014 the Best Year Yet with #2014BYY. Join the Mindfully Organized Challenge Group to make 2014 awesome!

 

 

Are You Open?

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Are you open to meeting the love of your life or your new best friend?

I hear many adults complain about how hard it is to find a life partner or even a new friend. I can certainly relate.  I have been known to say that once you are out of school it is much harder to get close to new people, and it is.  School is the perfect place to spend time with someone over and over again and to get to know them without having to purposely set up times to see someone.

However, I have to say I loved dating!  So much so that sometimes I wish I would have done a little more dating.  I got married to my high school sweetheart at 20 and then after my divorce I only dated about 6 months before I meet my true love.  I know I didn’t have a chance to get really tired of the whole thing but I also think that the way the I went into dating made all the difference, although at the time I was doing it for completely different reasons.

After the divorce I didn’t trust my instincts and wanted to make sure that I didn’t fall into dating a person that “felt right” because the feeling was familiar, i.e. like my ex. Also I wanted to take advantage of the powerful, wonderful feeling I had from taking control of my life.  I honestly, had decided that being alone for the rest of my life was fine, but I like masculine energy. So I decided about 6 months after asking for a divorce to start dating but I gave myself some strict rules:

  • No focusing on one person, this was a time to explore and so I let everyone I dated know that they were only one of the people I was dating.  This particular rule lead me to the first person I had a date with who was also not interested in anything serious and we dated the entire time I was dating.  We are friends today and I love him dearly.
  • No sex.  I knew myself and that was a sure way for me to get serious.
  • The third and I think most important rule for this discussion was: Say YES to EVERY first date. If someone was brave enough to ask me out I said yes.  I said yes to a 20 something, pot-smoking, glass blower.  I said yes to a 60-something Harley-rider. You get the idea.

Each time I time I went out on a date my only plan was to have a good time and to get to know the person I was with and myself a little bit more.  It worked.

I learned a ton about myself and who I want to be around.  It was an awesome experience.  I can’t say that there were no tough times.  I got pulled into some passive aggressive behavior with someone, which threw my brain into some old patterns. However, I got myself out within a week and I was so PROUD that I had figured it out and gotten out. I went on dates were I was uncomfortably liked right away, and dates were we had nothing to talk about. Each was a learning experience.

The best part of all of these rules was that they left me open to the LOVE OF MY LIFE. At the time we meet again was working as VFX artist in Los Angeles.  If I had been looking for a partner and not just experiences at that time I would have not “wasted” my time with someone from LA.  I knew I would not move away, my child and his father and I all need to live close together. The film industry is in LA so he “couldn’t” move…..See how I could have rationalized not even getting to know this person better?

Last night was our 5 year anniversary of the first time he flew to Seattle to see me.  Now, he lives in Seattle with me and has found his own creative community here.

So what did I learn from all of this?

  • Be open to what the universe has to offer.
  • Be more into the experience than the outcome.
  • Don’t over think new relationships. Don’t overanalyze, go with the flow.
  • Say yes to new people in your life. You never know they could be a great new friend or the love of your life.

Now for the hard part, taking those lessons and bringing them into parts the business and financial parts of my life.  Ok universe, opening myself up to what you have to offer.

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