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Tandy Elisala, Founder and CEO of The Center for Inspiring Greatness: Tandy specializes is success coaching and family caregiver coaching and created the caregiving P.E.A.C.E. training and coaching system. Tandy is a leadership executive with 25 years’ experience in higher education administration and talent management. Tandy was a full-time caregiver for both parents simultaneously while kicking cancer’s butt a third time herself. She lives in Phoenix, AZ, with her three kids, two dogs and three cats.
NOTES FROM OUR CONVERSATION:
How to Get Out of Chaos:
Gratitude – Gives you Strength
Love – Pure unconditional love for family
Alternative Healing Modalities
Sometimes you have to go all in to make important changes.
You need to let go of safety and security and
take the risks you know you need take.
What brings you balance and joy?
Kids – Put things into perspective.
Self Care – Deep breaths, in through the mouth out through the nose. 10 times. Imagine positive symbol or thoughts coming in. Negative symbol or thoughts going out. This is a great exercise in the shower.
Take five minutes to give gratitude for the situation at hand. Word it as if the situation has already has been resolved.
Practice of gratitude allows an energy shift. Negative people might leave as you shift into gratitude.
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Walking family caregivers through the process of caregiving.
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Chaos actually can bring people together. Make a gratitude jar. Have the whole family write something down that they are grateful for each day and then have a family meeting once a month to read all the notes.
How You to Keep it Together?
Making sure to get enough sleep. Set a reminder on the phone an hour before bedtime. Everyone needs a different amount of sleep.
Stretching. Sitting on an exercise ball.
How Do You Reboot?
Write down all the ways you are taking responsibility for others. Then put those tasks back on the people that should be doing them. (Rose’s note – delete some of the task you have given yourself too if you just have too much on your plate.)
Ask yourself, “Do I have control or influence over this situation?” Don’t allow yourself to waste time on worrying about what you don’t have control or influences over.
Pay it forward – feeding the homeless, paying for military family dinner, be of service to others help bring you back to center.
Quick Tips for Families:
Realize that other people come and go but family is forever. Take care of each other.
Communication! – Say what you need to say. Set loving boundaries.
Spend time together regularly. At least one family meal a week.
Humor is required.
Monthly individual time with each person. This can be a simple as a walk together.
If you would like to know more about Tandy and The Center for Inspiring Greatness visit – http://tandyelisala.com/