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2 Minute Tip ~ #12 Negative Voice

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We all have these voices in our heads that seem to try to bring us down and dash our hopes; that don’t seem to have any real usefulness. What do you do when the voice in your head starts talking negative?

Welcome to Mindfully Organized 2-Minute Tips I’m Rose Hawley-Perry,  The Declutter Your Mind So Your Soul Can Shine Coach and I’m here to tell you that everyone has a little negative voice in your head… in their heads… even the people that seem to have it all together.

What you do when your negative voice starts to get loud and affect what you’re doing? The very first thing you need to do is remember that just because it’s in your mind it does not mean that it’s true. You’re mind’s kind of like receiver box. It’s full of all kinds of different television channels. Some are good. Some are bad. Some you could care less about. You get to choose what to dial into when the negative voices are in there. It’s a choice to stay on that channel.

The very first thing you need to do is sit down and listen to what the negative voices have to say. There might be something in there that you need to hear. That negative voice is often there just to protect you. So, sit down and listen. There may be something wrong with the situation that maybe not coming up as clearly, but it may be there.

If it’s just an old “I’m not good enough”, “I can’t do this”; that it might be some old programming and you need to change the channel. So how do you change the channel? There’s a lot of techniques. You can use mantras to, kind of, ease your spirit. You can give your negative voice a different job. You can focus through the fear which I talk about in a previous two minute tip. Anything to, kind of, take your mind back into a positive place. So, the next time you have some negative voices rolling through your heads, stop, listen, and then change the channel.

Let’s keep the conversation going.  Leave me a comment and let me know how you deal with the negative voice inside your head.  I will personally respond to each comment.

2 Minute Tip ~ #11 Shifting Gears

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Are you feeling frustrated with your business? Are you thinking that you might need to change gears…again? Wondering if you’re ever going to get it right?

Welcome to Mindfully Organized 2- Minute tips.   I am Rose Hawley-Perry, The De-Clutter YOur Mind So Your Soul Can Shine Coach and today we are going to talk about the feelings that can come up when we think about changing gears in our businesses again.

If you are frustrated, then you’re not alone. It’s said that being an entrepreneur is one of the most thorough ways of self-exploration. When we start to dive deeply into ourselves, we also come to new and sometimes startling realizations about our business. As a result, we end up shifting gears. And sometimes it’s a dramatic shift.

Making changes like this in our business can be startling. We may feel like we are constantly struggling, having a hard time “getting it right”. We may mourn the loss of the work and time we’ve spent in putting things together. And we think that maybe this will be the “last time”.

Except, there’s a good chance that it won’t be. As we grow our business grows. As we work through the mental clutter to find clarity and focus, this also translates to our business. This means changes.

Embrace the idea of “shifting gears”. You’re not losing anything; you’re gaining renewed focus and energy in your business. You’re gaining clients. You’re most likely growing your platform and expanding your reach. This is great news!

So how do become comfortable with the idea of changing your focus? First, you need to understand that this has nothing to do with failure. Think of it more like a recipe. You’re cooking up things in your business and you make a decision to try a different spice. Maybe you make a dish that normally uses beef and you decide to substitute chicken. Changing a recipe isn’t a failure. It’s a change, one that sometimes turns into a new favorite. Other times, you decide it doesn’t quite work out and you go in a new direction. It’s never a failure.

Look at the benefits the change brings you. And look at the reasons why you’re making the change. If it feels good—feels right—to make the change, then that’s a good thing. Most likely it also will bring benefits to you personally as well as your business.

Changing gears is something that all great business leaders do and embrace. Many business books talk about being nimble—that’s what embracing change is all about.

So the next time you feel a need to change your focus, don’t fear and don’t worry. It’s all part of the process…and that means progress for you and for your business. I have even more to say on this topic in my new series of video “Stop Don’t Buy Another Business How-To Program Until you watch this….You can register to watch at http://www.mindfullyorganzied.com/wait

What do you think?  How do you embrace change in your life or your business?

2 Minute Tips ~ #5 Dealing with Difficult People

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Have you ever said something that you really, really regret?

Welcome to Mindfully Organized 2 Minute tips I am Rose Hawley-Perry, The Declutter Your Mind So Your Soul Can Shine Coach and in today’s episode I am going give you a few pointers on making more conscious choices in our responses to others.

Before all else you must take responsibility for your own actions.  Unless someone has physically made you do something, they don’t actually make you do anything.  The part that is theirs is their behavior.  That gets processed by your brain, filtered through your stories, your experience, your expectations and then turns it into YOUR reaction.

Have you ever had a person in your life that other friends got along with just fine, but they just pushed all the wrong buttons for you?  That is because their behavior gets filtered through your brain.

So, how do you start becoming more conscious and less reactive? Anywhere you can.  It takes practice and it seems like a lot of work.  But in reality, it is less work, because you get to decide when you want to do something.  You get to decide when to ignore something.  You and only you get to decide how you are going to spend your energy. I am not saying that getting angry or having a good cry isn’t the right reaction.  I am just saying you get to decide.

Most important, give yourself time to think before you speak. Do NOT respond too quickly.  We are taught that we need to answer quickly and decisively and that is false.  Take a breath.  If the situation allows step away, if it doesn’t say, Let me think about this for a minute.

Then decide what the most important outcome is for you in the situation.  If you are talking to a co-worker and they insulted you, but you need them to get something done yesterday, following up on the insulting part of the conversation right this minute may not be the best response.

What do you think? I love to hear your opinions so let a comment below and let’s talk. 🙂

Making Room for What You Want in Life: Letting Go to Grow

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There is a finite amount of time, energy and money in your life. 

There are only 24 hours in each day. The money or credit that you have right now is limited.  The amount of energy that you have to participate in life is limited.

We all have our individual limits of each of these resources. You might have less energy than a friend or you might have more time to use because you don’t need as much sleep as the average. Whatever it might be, YOU have a limit.

Admittedly, there are ways we each trade one resource for another.  You can trade sleep for time but by not sleeping enough you are dipping into your energy resources.  You can trade money for time and energy by paying someone to clean your house, watch your kids, write your book…but in the end there are still only 24 hours in each day and there is no way money can buy you out of those limitations.

Each one of us makes daily decisions regarding how we are going to spend our precious resources.  There are experts who specialize in teaching you to make, save and spend your money the best way possible.  Experts who focus on saving for retirement, experts who focus on living life to the fullest in the moment, and ones who try to teach ways to balance the two goals out.

There are efficiency experts to help you manage your time, to get more done in less time, to manage your to-do list so you have more time with your family and friends, to save time being organized and these are certainly  of importance to me.

However, the thing that is missing in these conversations is ENERGY.  Everything in our lives also takes our energy.  Whether it is walking the dog, taking care of the our homes, planning our retirement, cooking dinner, going to work or writing a blog (like I am doing now); all of these tasks require your energy.

Some tasks, especially ones that you have done often, only take the energy required to do that specific task.  Walking the dog becomes routine once you’ve done it for years. This task only requires the energy to actually perform the action.

This is not true for tasks that are new to us.  Writing this blog is one example.  I need to generate the energy to actually contemplate what I want to say.  I can’t just sit down and write a blog.  I roll each of these ideas around in my mind until my main idea coalesces and rises to the top.

Writing has always been something that I defined as a task I did not excel at. Over the last year, as I work on my coaching business, each time I needed to write something for the first time I had to spend some energy just convincing myself I could write well. I needed to talk my brain out of finding distractions and push forward. Only then was I able to sit down and write.  Writing a blog, for me, takes much more energy than the energy it took to sit down and write this out today.

With that in mind…What do you need to let go of, at least for a little while, to allow yourself the energy to accomplish the goals on your intention or resolution list, making 2014 your best year yet? 

We all manage, every day, to fill up the 24 hours that we are given and we find the energy that goes along with those hours.  If you are going to do something new and different for yourself this year then something else has to be let go of, at least until your mind, body and spirit are trained for the new activity.

Could you stop watching TV or only watch for 2 hours a week?  Could you take the bus into work so that you can read and/or work during your commute?  Could you enlist the people in your home to plan or make more of the meals? Could you stop saying yes to every request for your assistance, instead focusing on yourself in the moment?

What are you going to let go of? 

I am choosing to trade out some of the electronic brain-teaser games that I like to play at night and instead reading one of the many books on my nightstand and in my Kindle that I’ve been wanting to read.

Leave me a comment below and let me know what you think about these ideas. If you like them let me know what you might choose to give up in order to make 2014 your best year yet.

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Definitions Are Powerful

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Definitions Are Powerful

Do you have someone who is hard to deal with and is in your life for a reason by circumstance and not by choice? Like maybe your kids are friends with their kids?

What would happen if, just in your head, nowhere else, you redefined that person as not a friend but an acquaintance? Would that make their behavior easier to deal with?

This technique has worked for me in the past. My expectations for acquaintances are much lower than my expectations for friends. These people don’t know that they are reclassified, but my brain does.

That makes all the difference.

What do you think? Would this work for you?

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